"What is it that leads you to want to marry him?" the Rabbi asked.
"Well, I found what I was looking for - a man with the potential to be a good husband and father."
"Do you love him?" the Rabbi asked.
"Love him? of course not! I barely know him! For years, I've been taught that I should be looking for potentail. And I've found it. And now you are asking about love?"
Shocked at what he was hearing, the Rabbi said, "I don't even want to know who told you to ignore love and search only for potential. Maybe they were talking about lust, which is often confused for puppy love."
"I was just taught that the Torah way is to find someone who has the potential to be a good husband and father."
"Maybe the issue here is just in samantics. I would say that you don't need to be madly and passionately in love with the person, but there has to be a seed. There has to be more than potential though.
Look at it this way: water and dirt have the potential to bring about beautiful flowers or vegetation - but without a seed, all you have is mud."
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